(i’m so glad i’ve reached this point in my life where people ask me about jaime/cersei my life is complete god bless you anon. also this is going to be long as fuck)
i’m pretty much the same? because i never felt like grrm needed to clarify that.
tbh, the fact of being a jaime/cersei shipper is that you believe that cersei and jaime truly love each other and that it’s not one sided, because it’s absolutely not. the fact that people honestly believe that jaime loves cersei more than she loves him is absolutely ridiculous. so the fact that grrm has said that cersei loves jaime hasn’t really changed anything for me, except solidify the idea that anyone who thinks cersei doesn’t love jaime is wrong, because it’s now canon.
because honestly, if you truly believe that cersei and jaime don’t love each other equally, then you’re not reading the same books. “when he is in me, i’m whole”; jaime is literally a part of cersei, they’re twins, they were born together, they belong together, they’re two parts of a whole. you can’t have one without the other.
the reason why people believe that cersei doesn’t love jaime is because of a) how she is portrayed, and b) how their relationship changes when he comes back to king’s landing. cersei, from the beginning, is shown in a negative light. you automatically get the sense that she is not an easy woman to be with, because of how ned sees her. since we never get a cersei pov before she starts to become paranoid, we have no idea what her thoughts and motivations are at the beginning, but we do know that the only things she loves are jaime, power, and her children.
the thing is, she can’t have power and have jaime. they’re mutually exclusive. either she gives up power to be with the man she loves (and as a result, drops all her dreams and ambitions for a man, which cersei would never do, even for jaime), or she gives up the man she loves for power (which she would never do either, because they belong together). but she refuses to do either, and can’t deal with the pressure that comes from choosing both.
now, the reason why she’s like that is because of her upbringing into a very patriarchal and sexist society. someone wrote (in a meta i can’t remember the name of, now) that the reason why cersei wants power so much is because she was never taught to wield it. as a woman, she was taught to be the perfect wife and mother and was never expected to hold true power, even as queen. which is why she longs for power so much. the complete opposite goes for jaime. the reason why he wants nothing to do with power is because he was taught to have it in the first place. as a result, he knows how shitty it is to be in a position of power. he knows what power feels like, and as a result only wants a simple life: to be with cersei. this is why you have cersei desperate to be the son that tywin wants. he has jaime, who doesn’t want any of this power, and he has tyrion, who’s considered to be a disgrace. that’s why the idea of “anyone who isn’t us is an enemy” is so enforced in cersei’s mind, because that’s what being a lannister is to her (which is ultimately lead to her downfall).
now in regards to jaime returning to king’s landing, there’s a reason why things go downhill really quickly. all this tension that’s been brewing in jaime and cersei’s relationship quickly becomes apparent. jaime’s lost his hand and his sense of self, cersei’s lost her son and has become a paranoid mess. they’re literally twice as fucked up as they were before (which says a lot, lbr). they just don’t know how to handle their own problems and deal with each other’s problems too. so they fuck it up and jaime leaves and cersei needs him and it’s just one fucked up mistake after the other but they still love each other, they just fucked it up really really badly.
and i feel like the biggest reason why people feel like cersei doesn’t love jaime is because they’re mostly watching the show and haven’t read the books and are watching a skewed portrayal of what their relationship is really like (thanks d&d i hate you)
wow this got out of hand but i hope this didn’t go too off topic???
tl:dr - basically cersei and jaime have loved each other from the beginning and i was perfectly content with this idea even before grrm confirmed it and anyone who thinks otherwise is wong